> "women are drawn to toxic abusers" is very, very wrong. It indicates a wish/desire/need to be abused.

It doesn't have to indicate that. I think it's more likely that those traits that those women find attractive are the same traits that toxic abusers have.

> Don't make it sound like it's the womens fault.

I don't think he was doing that - people can't help what traits they find attractive.