If a village decides that, yes, it is a good thing to prevent kids from this and you should all do your part to help, how is that different from a government?
You can tell the members of the village to piss off if you disagree with them but government are the men with guns who can make you do whatever they want.
Alternatively any group of humans above the Dunbar number will be constrained to use blunt rule based systems, but below that you can take the circumstances and the persons involved into account.
